Friday, 16 January 2009

What Are You Making?



Sometimes I don't feel like cooking. If I have a free afternoon to spend in the kitchen, I love experimenting with new ideas and ingredients - but if I'm hungry, and I just want food now, then even half an hour to make a quick meal can start to feel like a chore.

Today was one of those days.

My husband had offered to cook this evening, but he'd had a long day too and looked exhausted, so I asked whether he'd like me to do it. I have to confess I was half-hoping he'd say no - instead, he looked terribly embarassed, gave me the world's sweetest smile, and said it would make him really happy if I were to do it.

And all of a sudden I actually wanted to. Not because I wanted to cook (I'd have been happier if the food could have suddenly made itself!) but because I wanted to do the thing which had made him smile like that.

All the time I was cooking, I wasn't making dinner - I was making that smile. Which makes me think - if something feels like a chore, perhaps it's down to focusing on the wrong thing...

6 comments:

Kazzy said...

Good message. I blogged once about a similar topic, noting that chores done in behalf of people you love can just be a way of having concentrated time to think about those people. Nice thought!

Jeanne said...

Great post! Always nice to hear a bride who still gets lost in her new husband's smile.

Bill's just gone off to do all the weekly shopping, leaving me here to do laundry and clean -- and I don't spend nearly enough time being grateful for having an old dog who's willing to take on a few new tricks to make my life easier.

The other thing he does that I just LOVE is, when I say the f-word to him, or flip him off, he gives this shout of laughter and then squeezes me in a hug and says, "I love you!" in this way that says he's still amazed and amused by me. How great is that?

Rachel Cotterill said...

Kazzy - that's a nice way of thinking about it :)

Jeanne - that's sweet :) it sounds like you're as lucky as I am (and believe me, I know exactly how lucky I am!)

Laura Jayne said...

What a lovely post. You made me smile as well. :)

phd in yogurtry said...

You got it. Cognitive therapy. Think about an unpleasant task another way and it becomes more enjoyable. Or at least, tolerable.

Rachel Cotterill said...

Laura Jayne - thanks for visiting, I'm thrilled to have added another smile to the world :)

phd in yogurtry - cool, I didn't know that.

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