Monday, 9 March 2009

Married Morals



There are some things about marriage that no-one tells you.

Actions which might be wrong in any other circumstance, which suddenly become sanity-savers.

Like the fact that in an otherwise open and honest relationship, it's still necessary to keep some secrets. With me, it's the secret location of all the spare packets of biscuits, sweets and chocolates. (No, I'm not telling you - you might tell my husband!)

And then there's the lying. Lying is essential. If we have to be there by 8pm, and I say 7.30, then getting there at 7.45 means we're actually early even though we're running late. My husband knows that I do this, but he's kind enough not to ask the 'real' time whenever I tell him something. I usually find the right moment to 'fess up is once we're actually in the car and on the road.

Another surprise is the value of fighting. We regularly have some great fights: "no, I'm treating you today!" and "it's my turn to make the coffee!" are two of my favourites.

These are just a few examples off the top of my head, but I'm sure you can all think of many more... so, over to you!

8 comments:

Chef E said...

This is really cute! We do similar things in our house, no real arguments, just love tugs...

Debbie said...

You are so right. These are wonderful traits to cultivate before marrying. A great post to pass on to our youth:)

Jenny Beans said...

This was a great blog. My husband and I have a lot of little things we do, like teasing each other. You have to have a really strong relationship to be able to get by with the teasing. Some people take the types of things we do to each other so seriously that they would end in divorce rather quickly.

Jeanne said...

The social lie is a necessary underpinning for civilization!

Kazzy said...

I have experimented with all of these lessons on morality, and I must say that after 22 years of marriage I am good at some and horrible at others. :0)

Lynda said...

Rachel well I had to smile when I read this post, 'cause I think that we all do it to some extent .... lying to our spouse that is ;) I always under price items (like shoes, clothing) which I buy, telling my husband I paid less for them than I really did. (I don't know why, as he never complains if I spend money - probably 'cause I grew up seeing my Mum do this !) I also don't tell him what ingredients I put in some of the meals I cook,as he is extremely fussy - like the time he devoured some mini peach pies I made, until I told him they had cream/cottage cheese in the pastry - then he wouldn't touch them again. (Yes, that is my hubby I'm talking about, and not my 4 year old daughter LOL) An interesting subject .....

Sam said...

I smiled as I read this, Rachel. You're describing what sound like a pretty healthy marriage.

Rachel Cotterill said...

Glad to hear I'm not alone ;)

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