Monday, 9 March 2009
There are some things about marriage that no-one tells you.
Actions which might be wrong in any other circumstance, which suddenly become sanity-savers.
Like the fact that in an otherwise open and honest relationship, it's still necessary to keep some secrets. With me, it's the secret location of all the spare packets of biscuits, sweets and chocolates. (No, I'm not telling you - you might tell my husband!)
And then there's the lying. Lying is essential. If we have to be there by 8pm, and I say 7.30, then getting there at 7.45 means we're actually early even though we're running late. My husband knows that I do this, but he's kind enough not to ask the 'real' time whenever I tell him something. I usually find the right moment to 'fess up is once we're actually in the car and on the road.
Another surprise is the value of fighting. We regularly have some great fights: "no, I'm treating you today!" and "it's my turn to make the coffee!" are two of my favourites.
These are just a few examples off the top of my head, but I'm sure you can all think of many more... so, over to you!