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Sunday, 4 March 2012

Of Flowers and Accidental Sexism



It was just before Valentine's Day that it struck me.

I've never bought flowers for my husband.

We've been married for three and a half years, and together for closer to six. I know he likes flowers, especially bold and colourful ones. When he buys them for me I know he picks out bunches he'll also enjoy, and which will brighten the home for both of us.

So why had I never thought to buy so much as a single bunch of roses to surprise him?

I can only blame the little chick-flick voice in my head, which tells me that men are "supposed to" shower women with flowers and chocolates, and not the other way around. Okay, it's hardly sexism on the scale of denying women the vote, but it is sexist, and I was disappointed in myself. Why shouldn't men have flowers?

When I took it upon myself to correct this omission, my husband said he didn't think that anyone had ever bought him flowers before. So I'm clearly not the only woman whose subconscious has stopped her.

Flowers



12 comments:

rosaria said...

Thoughtfulness! It works both ways. But yes, how is it that we don't shower men with the same goodies they shower us?

Elizabeth Braun said...

Not the same situation of course, but I remember when I left my old teaching job and my boss was leaving about the same time. The team had a collection for him, I made the communal card and some of the cash went on a bouquet which was quite low key with small blooms in red and yellow - about as masculine as they could work, I guess. Ex-boss looked at us all and said, 'I don't usually get flowers, by the way.'

Nice blooms you have there.=)

Mademoiselle Poirot said...

Good point and I agree with you. However, most men I know don't really seem to care about flowers, so maybe that's why it's assumed that no man cares? Which is of course as wrong as assuming that every woman likes red roses... Have a lovely evening :-)

the queen said...

I've seen a floral delivery service that will deliver a six-pack of beer festooned with ribbons and balloons.

Ayngelina said...

Instead of getting down on yourself at least you realized he'd love them too. I think it's really sweet.

Rachel said...

It's amazing how a sudden thought can turn all sorts of ideas on their heads!

Tabor said...

Those flowers are so totally gorgeous that I forgot what your post was about!

MJ said...

What a lovely thought - they are the symbol of love, and that goes both ways, so why not?

Kazzy said...

Very very sweet! My husband also likes to be surrounded by nice things.

Kazzy said...

Very very sweet! My husband also likes to be surrounded by nice things.

Charlotte said...

Awwww this is incredibly sweet and extremely thoughtful. I'm sure he loved the flowers... they are absolutely beautiful!

Dee said...

I love that you got him flowers! I've done that for my husband before, and a helium balloon bouquet once also.

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